Sex/Pornography Addiction Therapy for the Addict
The pursuit of sexual pleasure is one of the most natural human behaviors. After all, sexual acts are crucial for the survival of our species. However, when this pursuit begins to function as a means of escaping, avoiding or numbing painful feelings at the expense of the individual or their loved ones, it can become a sex or pornography addiction. This disorder encompasses the planning of, obsessing with, and engagement in sexual behaviors.
Someone’s pornography or sex addiction serves a huge function in their lives: it is most often used as a distraction from the lasting repercussions of childhood wounds. These wounds could be the result of anything from abandonment to sexual and physical abuse. In any case, when engaging in sexual and pornographic acts, the addict feels “alive” and “unburdened”—for a few charged moments lifted from the sea of pain and sadness in which they are otherwise adrift.
I will work with you to uncover the root of your sex or pornography addiction. Through our conversations, we will reveal the underlying feelings that propel your addiction and work to heal the wounds that have been open for so long.
Sex/Pornography Addiction Therapy for the Couple
When I work with both the addict and their loved ones, I make sure to treat each person as an individual with their own needs and concerns. I ensure that we proceed from betrayal in a way that feels most authentic to the dynamics and tendencies of the established relationship. In other words, the way in which I navigate addictions is entirely customized to each couple.
Sex/Pornography Addiction Therapy for the Partner
The discovery of a partner’s pornography or sex addiction can leave one with intense feelings of betrayal, confusion, sadness, and anger. It is very common for the betrayed party to feel as if they no longer know their partner, and in some cases experience symptoms of PTSD. In my work with the partner of a sex or pornography addict, I guide them in acceptance of the reality of their partner’s addiction and support them in whichever way they decide to move forward. If the partner chooses to stay with the addict, I work with them to formulate “bottom line behaviors”, or ground rules that are non-negotiable if the relationship is to persist. No matter the chosen path, this is a process and, as all processes do, takes time. I will be there every step of the way, and will help the betrayed partner:
• Feel supported and not feel so alone
• Talk about their feelings of betrayal and shame
• Reduce the probability of being re-traumatized
• Begin the healing process from their sexually addicted partner
Am I a Sex Addict?
Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?
Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?
Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?